denying the rights of one who has treated her well. THAT is why it was allowed, so that they could have someone to care for them. This quick list is for the Muslim sisters in my audience. . Made us cook only traditional food. For a single woman to dream that she is being loved by a husband is a sign that it is time for her to think of marriage. Some of us are fortunate enough and some of arent. This article is informative. No sister, theres no proof of any such against the man. Gifts dont make up for it, and gifts dont make me respect someone. Why should a nice type Muslim sister be patient when her husband is verbally or even physically abusive, emotionally distant, selfish, childish an narcisstic? I would like to adress the author regarding 4th point. Second, is your question about polygamy, as to whether the first wife has a right to object to her husband's marrying another woman. dont thomp your thinking on all men! and would you say my husband still qualifies for the above? But women should not let jealousy make them object to that which Allah has permitted, and they should not try to prevent it; a wife should allow her husband to marry another woman for this is a kind of cooperating in righteousness and piety. He Desires Your Loyalty Bukhari and Muslim. you, why is he striving to wreck your home and destroy your family? To My Sisters who swears against sharing their husbands with other Sisters as Allah Taala enjoins (for HE knows best): you will SURELY loose him to his CREATOR (SWT) someday. well sis dont get married then. Based on the above, you should push away all whispers from It all seems so many years ago now. The part about sex is ridiculous. sis if u r true Muslim then I would deeply advise you to fear ALLAH. Should I demand respect at all times from him or should I allow him a bad day? (2) The lady is trying to get her daughter married. Because you are right not every man is the same and no one should follow this article (its based on the authors experiences) only act as the person you married acts towards you and follow Allah he whos judges all. It was not something that occurred quickly, but over the course of several years we fell hopelessly in love with each other. If the woman convinces him somehow not to be angry or have some genuine problem to avoid it then I dont think she will be cursed. Secondly, although not required but would be of good practice would be to tell my first wife of the reasons to go for second marriage. Firstly, I would like to thank the author of this post for his sharing the knowledge. They are in denial. It is up to the couple. But for the couple who are in agreement with one another and understand one another and know that perhaps you have had a long day, your stressed about work, your worried about your childrens exams etcc..The husband should understand and in that regard the hadiths punishment does not apply. As it is the duty of Muslims to fulfill all obligations, the Muslim husband cannot but honor such a condition. DONT EXPECT RESPECT. Allahuallam! My husband and I are both Catholic, he converted to the faith fairly recently. Please you deserve care, love, honour and respect. The purpose behind multiplr marriages was to help and sehlter war victims or widows. Thus the only two options before a woman who cannot find a husband is to marry a married man or to become public property. I get so tired of reading articles like this. where it is not clear if the matter is good or bad, and the Muslim does not It is NOT haram for a man to get a second wife without the permission of his wife. However, if the woman disliked this action, and did not want to give her husband this right, then it was her responsibility to mention this in the marriage contract. Why do you think men are willing to leave their jobs and risk starting a business? If he spends the night angry with her that means if you can convince him then he will not be angry and no angels curse you. this young man will treat you as nicely after marriage as he does now? If and only if she did this in the marriage contract, then he is not allowed to do that without her permission. Be careful sisters. Muslim girl, read the brothers comment carefully then make your comment. Of course he'll desire sex but that doesn't mean he should disrespect you. Things Ur Muslim Wife May Not Tell U. 1) Respect is earned. Mashaa Allaah,this was a pleasant article to read. I m growing alone his child( as Ive got pregnant when we broke up) and believe me it hurts more when your child grows without father. women are not respect giving machines. marrying someone other than her husband when she is still married to her Agreed! responding to great kindness and good treatment with a great wrong and Threaten her with divorce. Your dream is a premonition for a memory and brain power. My guess is that they moved on to another town. You might not like it or want to practice it but thats fine. Although, a male, I would say about the 3rd point that it much more depends on the condition: 1) Now if a man is having sex with his wife for 3 consecutive nights and if the wife does not want it on the 4th night then I dont think she will be cursed for it. Intention to marry to worship Allah SWT, Marriage should be accompanied by intent. All men are different and do expect different things, same goes for women, marriage is about communicating, you are not just two people that meet in day to have sex and thats it, where is the communication, find out what YOUR husband wants and not what this idiot wants. Mutual Divorce in Muslim Marriage Both you and your spouse can divorce each other if you both do not want to continue in the marriage and wish to end all marital obligations. This means that these people do not wish to marry women. We need to be more respected. dis is remainder to our dear sister, jst vice-vasa may ALLAH c us tru.tanx, InSha Allah. But there is an entire SURAH! The coworker response, he never told you? my response,tell me what?the coworker replies, he has been married for two yrs and has a child. I confronted him and he lied about having a wife and child. Jazakalla hu khairan. As for the positive result that you say your friend got, What should I do if my has bansband doesnt tell me anything about the truth even very little things, Question, my fianc is muslan Im catholic, he dont want to do anything until we got married but we almost did everything is the right? May Allah bless you. neglect of their children. When a husband and wife take their vows they are declaring to Love, Honour & Respect till death do us part and if you truly have that you cannot go wrong IA. Would this be a question that a girl should ask a suitor just to make sure hes ok with this and not to have any surprises on the wedding night? The practice of polygyny continued till Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah. Bottom line is this the wife was respectful to him. Just ridiculous. We want a gorgeous hero for a husband ad much ad you want a gorgeous wife. Im sure each wife will be happy with that. Just to forgive and make sandwich? Narrated from Aisha Radhiyallahu anhuma, If the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wa Sallam is about to travel, then he draws among his wives; whichever of them is his part, he goes out with him. Just because man is ALLOWED to take a second wife, doesnt mean he should. Islamic Dua Stop My Husband Having Affairs She uses to come to wasim's gym and used to take training from him. I have also grown to have feelings for him but I try and hide it all the time.Is it possible for me to make istikaara whilst married and also what do we do? The USA as a whole has more than twenty-five million gays. If you think your husband is brave, noble, handsome, strong, TELL HIM. Sex when he wants even if the woman doesnt?? Shame on these people. If anything, she is going to think U cheated or did something wrong if U keep throwing dunua at her, Correct 100%..if the above post is giving u everything with reference and inspite of this you are not accepting it means you are zionistand woman dont make your own rules and laws this world is hell due to yours silly thinkings got it, Subhan Allah..JazakAllah,.. wife). big deal, a wife isnt happy about her husband being a man and being polygamous by nature, and men arent happy with women in many regards either. Quran permits limited polygyny As I mentioned earlier, Quran is the only religious book on the face of the earth that says marry only one. So do not you lean to the truth to the wife you love so much that you let the other wives hang. i used to kiss his feet,smell his pillow n shirts ,took care of his mom n welcomed his relatives.n now theres nothing but hurt n ppl tell me to 4give.HELL!!! I shared with him that I was still in contact with his friend and things were getting serious. Its quite understood that a man or a woman who doesnt respect or fulfill his or her spouses needs (whatever they maybe) on purpose gains Allahs displeasure. Krishna had several wives. He and his family were treating me very unfairly, insults, etc. Dear Wazeela, i dont know when you commented but I reply now in 2017 september. It will still hard for us before we get used to the Idea! I like your comment sister and I agree 100%, For those muslimah who are not happy about the content, please remember the topic is 7 Things Your Muslim Husband Wont Tell You. Good morning InshaAllah we all better ourselves and our relationships. Before such a situation arises, please take precautions. King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. Thankyou. I agree with not being forced and surely your husband has compassion for you when you are ill or tired from work (inside and outside the home) and perhaps with dealing with children all day long but It is also important to note that expecting your husband to just control his desires is wrong. You may want to read aboutQuranic Dua for Diseases, A woman sometimes experiences pain, menstruation, and childbirth. Broadly, Islam has five categories of Dos and Donts. SubhanAllah ladies , stop being selfish . And my parents wont allow me to to it until I atleast pass the age of 22but being that I am a hormonal mess, I have to admit that as a female that I have desires that I would love to fulfill with my future husbandhowever that is not a reality for me. In the end your own integrity makes you stay loyal. I too am deciding divorce. The sahaba were real men and were fighters and very responsible people. May Allah bless your marraige and everybody elses. Well as a muslim man, I am required to question my ownself before going for second marriage. You may think leaving is the hardest thing to do (it takes courage) but have faith Allah will guide you. This idea is put forward in the Quran where Allah says: Men are in charge of women by what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend from their wealth. The purpose behind marriage was to provide shelter and financial support to widows and victims. Do you think that by thinking this way I am against Islam and I would not be a good Muslim? One is polygyny where a man marries more than one woman, and the other is polyandry, where a woman marries more than one man. Giving no respect to our opinions, making important decidions without shura, making us shoulder financial responsibilities All these kinds of things make us feel switched off sexually towards you. relationship is even more haraam, because it is a transgression against the last between you after you get married? Good question. For this reason, there are more deaths among males as compared to the females during paediatric age. I mean we are woman, best to get over it. Amen! It will keep him away from different kinds of sins and might also keep him from going to other woman. First ray of real light Ive seen in these sad and depressing comments. Of course sister if a woman wanted to have sex with her husband & intensionally he refuse it. AssalamuAlaykum Im happy,couze my husband big resfect me when it comes sex,if he want and idont like make sex w/ him,he just say ok fine but he is not angry 2 me..thans 4 the nice topics n adviceAllah huakbar.. hmmm youre happy; but is he really happy? I really like your article however there are some contradictions in it. Im really not in the mood.. I find point 3 rather black and white. Sometimes we screw it up and forget our anniversary. i wouldnt state this if i honestly didnt believe it. Btw if Muslim women want they can write a no-2nd marriage clause in their marriage contract during the nikah. The marriage of a woman during pregnancy is also mentioned in the compilation of Islamic law and the law is allowed by weighing all its merits and mudharatnya. So when a man asks his wife, and this is a good point, the hadith says ASKS his wife, not force it upon her, and she says no without reason, in order to get back at him, because they are fighting and she wants to teach him a lesson. Although I have watched horrible videos in the past, I try not to anymore. Disclaimer:The conceptualization and recommendations stated in this response are very general and purely based on the limited information provided in the question. You sir are correct issue at hand is that most people here are A. I think I am going to leave him and allow him to go back to his home country to his Real Family (whom I truly love). Actually, this can be part of the marriage contract. A husband and wife can end their marriage and become exes. Jazakum Allah khayran. One should learn how to respect his wife. Am I not good enough? I am at the edge of breaking and breaking up with him .. the biggest problem is he never sees his huge faults and put the blame on me and thats hurting. Establishment of kinship among fellow human beings. Thank you. May Allah swt guide us all. The moment you hide it from your first wife means you lack the genuine reason. Why have muslim men been given a license to hurt their wives at any point in their married life by polygamy? i wont share my husband even after my death. O ye who believe! And seek only to please Allah subhana watala. Mashallah very interesting and thoughtful quotes. Let me explain this. If you can stop fantasizing about your future wives that is. As a knowledge of divorce, here are the rights of a woman in Islam during a divorce: 1. 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